My friend, James and I were having dinner at my house last night, and our topic of conversation was on being married and the importance of communication between husbands and wives. With both our wives being off-island, we spoke freely without any fear of "stink eye" from them. Anyway, we both agreed that we need to understand our wives better, especially when they are trying to say one thing, but their emotions may mean something else. James said he is the type that, when offended, will need some time to think things through. His wife is the opposite. She can forgive a wrong done to her very quickly. I tend to be like Elena, and Grace tends to be like James. As we spoke, I realized how that knowledge of how my wife reacts can help us to have more effective communication. I need to layoff of her when she is upset. I shouldn't expect her to be like me, forgiving quite easily. I should give her time to be upset. She always comes around in due time. Of course, I should try to avoid making her upset in the first place, but alas, sometimes even the perfect husbands are imperfect.
We then spoke about how we need to cherish our spouses. We need to show them that we love them everyday. We need to be spontaneous, and exciting. We need to be thoughtful husbands, so we agreed that when our wives come back home, we will show them how thoughtful we can be. Will we keep to our agreement? Can we truly not upset our wives? Can we really be thoughtful, exciting, spontaneous? Sure! I look forward to my wife's arrival. I've missed her in our time apart.
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